Shark Attack! (or just inadequacy played out)

Like a piece of meat in a pool of sharks. Nashing, bodying, pushing, insufficient altruism, yet no contempt, simply survival. The human male is worse, for we have the knowhow, the insight, to know that when we harm or bully another for something they have or a resource we all want, it can get personal.

Sorry Larry. This one's mine. 

Like a girl in the gym, sports bra, toned midsection, tight, trendy yoga pants accenting all features of self, men clamoring, trying to vie for the affection, but attention will suffice. Every man has their reason, some for lust, strictly sexual, others for attention, for if this apparently confident and attractive girl is interested in me, she might fulfill what I don’t see in myself. Other men want to show for other men and be the dominant one, the one to gain the attention of the quietly-agreed upon head lioness. The difference between Animal Planet and the Real World, is intent.

Man’s intent is not to merely mate, despite the argument being made that we are primal creatures, we aren’t. Sure there is a midbrain inside that drives desires, and Maslow’s Hierarchy tends to allow behaviors to obtain “needs” sex included, but we have more than that. We have an entire system of memories, feelings, understanding intentions, understanding how in the past something may have played out. We have a life of knowledge that if we CHOOSE to use, helps us avoid the same pitfalls as before. 

Arrogance and...

To the man who covets for to gain confidence, he knows. Somewhere in that brain of his, he knows how this goes. He gets with her, feels good, claims to be satisfied, convinces himself she’s the one, and when she doesn’t text back he reverts to his old self. The inadequacy oozing out like a boil that needs popped. This man is left to what he has known his whole life, never being enough.

The one that strictly wants to mate, well he may have children out there, he may have a girlfriend, he may have people he tries to, “hook up” with to satisfy his craving. The one who wants to show superiority, well, much like the first guy, he too might be fulfilling some inadequacy yet he might not be so sad afterward, but gives him an excuse to be angry, callous, make excuses for it is everybody but him that’s a problem, even if he has to demean the girl in the process.

We are not the tigers hunting in packs, we are individuals who at times pretend to get along, for we want reassurance that we are not alone. We are meant to converse in intimate ways therefore we make connections and increase our chance of survival. Still, when that sports-bra, tight-pants wearing piece of steak is dipped in the water, the sharks start to do what they do best, attack.

However, she isn’t a piece of meat, she is a person, with feelings, thoughts, insight, an entire life that cannot be summed up in her physical appearance. She is not merely a lioness used to increase the pride's numbers with quality offspring. She may be a Christian worshipping Jesus every morning, praying to him, unaware of the effect she has, because everyone just stares and social media tells her its OK. She might have a boyfriend, or not even looking for a partner at the time. She is confident because she has a Father in Heaven who watches over her, not because her body looks that way. She is more than the reactions of the men around her, more than the judgmental expressions by other, jealous females. She is a person who deserves love as much as the guys salivating.

What we see and what we interpret can be significantly different. This is why a judgment is a terrible thing to waste on another human, and instead it is more beneficial to use it on foods or a car, not the person with their intricate selves.

Castle-Broken, When appearances are everything, available on Amazon. For body image disorders, or if you are the kind of person who looks into these sorts of things, click HERE. 

God Bless.