The way you Think
This isn't going to go the way you think...
The best line from the latest official Star Wars movie, The Last Jedi.
In the scene, Luke, the master, is trying to coach young Rey about forces, right and wrong, through his own experiences, reporting what he knows to be a hard truth.
No matter how hard a person tries, or how bad they may want something, sometimes it just isn't going to go your way, or as expected.
Unfortunately, plenty of things do go our way that we fail to acknowledge. Certain failures or hard times end up bringing out the best in us. A break-up, a firing from a job, a failed project, only to produce the better version later. Uh hem, failed writing attempts to convey what I thought a clear message, however feedback says otherwise.
It's really two things that all of the online success coaches are going to promote. The same basic ideas that children are taught, to pick yourself up when you fall, and to learn from the failure. These two concepts are also the hardest thing you could do, for it is hard to go against adversity, it is difficult to keep going when all people say stop. Pushing through pain is not as glorifying as cinema makes it out to be. There is no montage of you staying up late, slurping coffee, swearing through sheer willpower that you will succeed. There is only progress and continuing to do so despite all the odds.
I do not take my own advice. Instead, I want to run at the drop of a hat, or the fall from a bicycle, or a negative comment. The painful report of another shoots through my mind, into my stomach, and my immediate thought is actually reinforcing a belief I already struggle with, failure.
Failure is not a foreign concept to me, nor is it ever anew when I feel it. Instead, failure is like a reminder as to what I feel anyways. It is being exposed rather than made. I have felt undeserving of any success and contentment most of my life and destroyed a lot of really good things because of it. However, as my namesake stated earlier, my perspective of success was not what I thought it was going to be. Instead, I thought success was making enough money to allow haters to hate. Essentially, I thought that once you received a certain status or following that all the stress went away because the performance was done, the proving no longer necessary.
Ha. Right?
So, as juvenile as my earlier perspective of, "success" was, I now, through like two more books at least, have figured out that "success" for me is something refreshing rather than something competitive. I am no longer bound to "winning," but get to see others do so by contributing.
Success wasn't what I originally thought it was. If you would have told my punk, adolescent self that THIS, what I am currently living, was success, he would have been disgusted. Too into the world and money and how those things equated to a version of love he thought was appropriate. I able to see that things did not go how I thought they would, and I couldn't be happier.
God Bless.
BTW, Body Image disorders plagued some of my earlier experiences in life and led to many of my own failures. What I was able to do with those failures is to provide a book to people who may struggle with their own issues and need to understand why and what to do about it. Click HERE. for the book.
In the scene, Luke, the master, is trying to coach young Rey about forces, right and wrong, through his own experiences, reporting what he knows to be a hard truth.
No matter how hard a person tries, or how bad they may want something, sometimes it just isn't going to go your way, or as expected.
Unfortunately, plenty of things do go our way that we fail to acknowledge. Certain failures or hard times end up bringing out the best in us. A break-up, a firing from a job, a failed project, only to produce the better version later. Uh hem, failed writing attempts to convey what I thought a clear message, however feedback says otherwise.
It's really two things that all of the online success coaches are going to promote. The same basic ideas that children are taught, to pick yourself up when you fall, and to learn from the failure. These two concepts are also the hardest thing you could do, for it is hard to go against adversity, it is difficult to keep going when all people say stop. Pushing through pain is not as glorifying as cinema makes it out to be. There is no montage of you staying up late, slurping coffee, swearing through sheer willpower that you will succeed. There is only progress and continuing to do so despite all the odds.
I do not take my own advice. Instead, I want to run at the drop of a hat, or the fall from a bicycle, or a negative comment. The painful report of another shoots through my mind, into my stomach, and my immediate thought is actually reinforcing a belief I already struggle with, failure.
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| Truth is in the eyes... |
Ha. Right?
So, as juvenile as my earlier perspective of, "success" was, I now, through like two more books at least, have figured out that "success" for me is something refreshing rather than something competitive. I am no longer bound to "winning," but get to see others do so by contributing.
Success wasn't what I originally thought it was. If you would have told my punk, adolescent self that THIS, what I am currently living, was success, he would have been disgusted. Too into the world and money and how those things equated to a version of love he thought was appropriate. I able to see that things did not go how I thought they would, and I couldn't be happier.God Bless.
BTW, Body Image disorders plagued some of my earlier experiences in life and led to many of my own failures. What I was able to do with those failures is to provide a book to people who may struggle with their own issues and need to understand why and what to do about it. Click HERE. for the book.
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